Rape: Violence Not Required

Over the weekend, two Ohio teens were found guilty of raping a 16 year old intoxicated, incapacitated girl. There were many witnesses to the incident, who did not make an effort to help the girl or stop the teens who were violating her. The most telling part of the story was the testimony of one of the witnesses. From the Yahoo article:

“It wasn’t violent,” explained teammate Evan Westlake when asked why he didn’t stop the two defendants as they abused a non-moving girl that Westlake knew to be highly intoxicated. “I always pictured it as forcing yourself on someone.”

There is a grave misunderstanding of rape in our society. We watch shows like Law & Order: SVU and think that rape = a violent attack. If the victim walks away without any physical damage, it must not have been rape. Continue reading

Silent No More

Right after my eighteenth birthday I found out I was pregnant. This was well before I knew anything about Natural Family Planning and so I wasn’t paying any attention to my cycle, though I knew I was regular. My boyfriend and I weren’t using any form of contraception as we had been trying to abstain, having recently become Christian. I was just starting my second semester of community college and had only recently gotten my driver’s license. I was very young and naive. Continue reading

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Please sign this petition. Bay Area News Group is trying to discredit the Tri-City Voice’s (the paper I write for) qualification as a “newspaper of general distribution,” thereby impacting TCV’s ability to earn income from publishing legal notices. If this income was taken away, TCV would likely go out of business. The Tri-City Voice is a free, local, independent newspaper. Please support independent news and sign this petition. Thank you!

Kimchi Jjigae

The boys were very generous in sharing their germs with me, so now I have a cold. In an effort to at least pretend to assist my immune system and purge myself of this bug, I made kimchi stew for dinner. It’s the perfect spicy soup for the cold and flu season.

This is the recipe I followed, though I made some alterations. I used Spam instead of pork belly, added four cups of beef broth instead of two cups of water, and forgot the ginger and scallions (I think I’ll add those to the leftovers tomorrow). I substituted Thai Red Curry Paste for Korean chili paste and left out the miso, because I have neither Korean chili paste nor miso. I added some noodles and shiitake mushrooms to make it more filling. Continue reading

Quote

Read this in one of my books for Rhetoric, Writing Life Stories by Bill Roorbach.

“…memory is what people are made of. After skin and bone, I mean. And if memory is what people are made of, then people are made of loss. No wonder we value our possessions so much. And no wonder we crave firm answers, formulae, facts and figures. All are attempts (however feeble in the end) to preserve what’s gone. The present is all that’s genuinely available to anyone, and the present is fleeting, always turning instantly to the past.”